We know how important your involvement is in your child's education - we also know how difficult it can be to stay on top of all of the important steps in planning and preparing for college.  

Below you'll find this month's content - LEARN (info to know), DO (action to take), and TIPS (insights for success)


LEARN

Avoiding Student Stress 

Stress. We all have it. 

Many of us have positive ways to cope with it: talking to trusted friends, exercising, leisure activities, etc. But we aren’t the only ones with stress. With homework, school expectations, and testing, students’ stress is now higher now than ever. 

School pressure adversely affects about 45% of teens nationwide, according to the American Psychological Association. And while you cannot always mitigate the stress in their lives, you can help them learn how to cope with the stress they encounter in positive ways. 

While some stress is temporary, chronic or more severe stress can lead to more serious problems, such as:

  • Headaches or migraines
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Upset stomach
  • Nightmares
  • Trouble focusing
  • Irritability, anger
  • Shutting down
  • Withdrawal

If you start to notice these symptoms affect your teenager, there are some thoughtful ways that you can take an active role to helping them. Some practical strategies:

  • Think about your expectations of your student.
  • Find a way to balance those expectations with encouragement and compassion.
  • Encourage your student to follow a reasonable schedule.
  • Knowing what is expected makes tasks easier to manage.

(Be sure to remember that downtime is important for ALL kids and that one teenager may thrive with a full schedule of activities while another may quickly become overwhelmed.)

Teach your student to learn from his/her mistakes. Let them know it’s OK to not be the best and encourage him/her to focus on personal growth. Learning how to handle setbacks is a lifelong skill that will serve them well throughout their life.

Seek professional help when needed. If stress seems to interfere with your child’s ability to function, a school counselor or professional psychologist will be able to help identify the root source and offer coping mechanisms.

No matter what the source of the stress is - school, friends, family, social life - stress can make even the strongest person breakdown. Most important, love your child. Remind them that you are a team and that you will help them, no matter what.


DO

Make a schedule with your Teen

Find a little bit of time to sit with your teenager and talk through a typical weekly schedule. Look to the next week and see if you can help your teenager alleviate some stress related to their schedule. Look for opportunities to schedule in fun activities and certainly some rest and relaxation time.


TIP #1

Meet the teachers – Most schools have an Open House or Back to School Night, be sure to attend!  It is important to share with them a bit about yourself and your son or daughter as a student and more importantly as a person.

TIP #2

Homework – While it may not be very fun, it is important.  Remind your teenager that learning doesn’t end 3pm and that homework is just another way to increase learning.  Encourage your student to embrace the idea of self-directed learning by creating their own homework schedules.


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